Handling High-Stress Hockey Parents: A Guide

Hello Hockey Families,

We have all encountered them - passionate parents whose emotions run high during games, creating a charged atmosphere around the rink. So, how can we navigate these situations and help maintain a pleasant environment for all attendants and players? Let's explore.

Situation 1: Overly Aggressive Cheering

You've got a parent around who loudly berates referees, coaches, or even the young players. Here's how you can handle it:

Pre-game: Get to know the parents. Engage them in positive conversations about the enjoyment of the game, children’s learning, and growth. This might make them think twice about their own behavior.

During the game: If things get heated, avoid direct confrontation. Instead, intervene with calm, positive statements about the game. A little positivity can go a long way in diffusing tension.

Post-game: If the aggressive cheering continues, consider discussing it with the coach or team manager in a non-confrontational manner. They can then address the concern without singling out individuals.

Situation 2: Post-Game Critiques

Some parents might express their frustration or disappointment about the game or certain players openly after the match. How to deal with this?

Pre-game: Encourage pre-game discussion, emphasizing the value of positive encouragement and respect for all players' efforts.

Post-game: After the game, steer the conversation towards the effort put in by the players, learning points from the match, or good plays. Positive dialogue can gradually change the narrative over time.

Situation 3: Over-Involved Parent

These are parents who tend to invade the coach's space, offering unsolicited advice or disputing the coach's decisions.

Pre-game: Establish and reinforce boundaries about the coach's and parents' roles at a pre-season parents meeting. Having clear boundaries can prevent such situations from arising.

During the game: If a parent gets too involved, a light-hearted comment about letting the coach 'take the reins' can serve as a gentle reminder without causing offense.

Post-game: If the problem persists, having a quiet, polite conversation reminding them of the roles set before the season can be helpful. This invitation for open discussion can help resolve issues without escalating them.

Remember, dealing with overzealous parents is about maintaining a positive, respectful atmosphere for everyone. It's important for us, as parents, to model the sportsmanship we wish to see in our children. In the process, we create a nurturing environment where children, parents, and coaches can collectively enjoy and grow from the wonder that is hockey.

Erin @ My Hockey Store.